The Paperback Pursuer: Review # 300: Let’s Talk About Tickling by Veronica Frances

Description:

Let’s Talk About Tickling is an honest, straightforward discussion about tickling. Discover the many different aspects of tickling—the fantasies, the realities, the many paradoxes of the tickling fetish and how to come to terms with ones own sensuality.

A refreshing and very welcome find, Let’s Talk About Tickling is for anyone who wishes to expand their awareness of tickling and other related fetishes. This book will be of great interest to anyone who wants to get in touch with their sensual self, whether they have a tickling fetish or not.

Author Veronica Frances offers her readers the chance to improve their relationships in and out of the bedroom by shining a light on the powerful significance of tickling. She reminds us that tickling is not merely the whisper of a feather on the flesh. It is an echo that calls us from deep within, beckoning us to listen and respond.

Review:

About two years ago, I decided to take a leap outside of my comfort zone and read Veronica Frances' Tickling Daphne H., my first foray into erotic tickling fiction. As I admitted in my review of Tickling Daphne H, I had never imagined that tickling was a turn-on, let alone a form of sexual pleasure and/or torture, but the way that Veronica's characters interacted and used tickling in various ways, even in their daily lives, opened my eyes to the adult uses of tickling; perhaps less innocent versions than my previous associations, but nonetheless intriguing. So when I heard about Veronica's Let's Talk About Tickling, a nonfiction heart-to-heart about tickling and its uses in and out of the bedroom, I figured that it might be interesting to learn more about tickling and why it is such a sensual and erotic mechanism for so many people. I was right. It is indeed interesting, especially because of the personal, down-to-earth, humorous, detailed, and easily readable way that Veronica discusses tickling. She presents topics in such a way that they seem natural, sensual, and doable, unlike books on similar topics where the thought of actually "taking action" is stress-inducing. I actually found myself relating to some of the material presented, particularly the sections about "tickling with words" and "tickling paradoxes", contemplating how tickling could potentially play a role in my own life. No, this book did not inspire me to run to the nearest craft store for a jumbo pack of multi-colored feathers, but it did tickle my curiosity. Overall, Let's Talk About Tickling was a great read, and I have already recommended it to several friends who would like to give the "tickling thing" a try.

Rating: On the Run! (4.5/5)

About the Author:

Veronica Frances is the author of the gutsy, no-holds-barred novel,Tickling Daphne H.Her new non-fiction book Let’s Talk About Tickling sheds a refreshing new light on the subject. She is known as the TickleWriter in some circles.

Veronica also writes under her real name, Stacey Handler. Stacey is the author of The Body Burden; Living In The Shadow Of Barbie. Her book was featured in Jump Magazine, Australian Women’s Weekly, The National Enquirer, and several other publications, radio shows and cable TV shows.

Stacey excels at public speaking, singing, composing, and writing. She is a singer-songwriter, poet, and has written in many different styles. She has an album and several singles available, including her two popular anthems, Ain’t No Skinny Little Thing and Soap Opera Diva.

She lives in New York City, where she continues to write erotica, fiction, poetry and non-fiction.

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Guestpost:

The Mind Rules Your Sensual Universe

by Veronica Frances

It is important to understand that true intimacy often begins in the mind. Yes, two people can feel arousal in their bodies and jump into bed. That is not the same thing. Real intimacy, which can include fetishes, various kinks, and the unraveling of certain defenses, must be mentally explored as much as physically. Otherwise, sex becomes like a tired stick of gum. It will lose its flavor eventually if two people cannot mentally connect and take the time to really learn about their partner and their partner’s needs.

I believe it is important to take full advantage of a rich fantasy life, if you happen to be lucky enough to have one. Fantasies are a healthy way for the mind to travel to sensual places. It is important to include your partner as much as possible in these travels. Airfare is free. There are no limits to where the mind can go when immersed in a fantasy.

It is perfectly fine to fantasize on your own, without sharing your fantasies with anybody. After all, they are your fantasies. You own them. Nobody can take them away from you. I am merely suggesting that sharing your deep inner fantasies with your partner will give them a front row glimpse into your own sensual projection room. Your partner will have the pleasure of sharing your personal fantasies with you. They will also have a better idea as to what turns you on and what your sexual triggers are. Tickling is an amazing and very powerful sexual trigger for some people.

Sexual triggers are often fetishes, or as I discussed in a previous chapter, phrases that add to a sexual experience. In certain fantasies about tickling, verbal triggers are often used and can sometimes be a fabulous precursor to the actual tickling that takes place.

Here is a scenario that I find very sexy. This is a very typical fantasy for somebody who loves tickling.

I am sitting in a restaurant with the guy of my dreams. He keeps staring at me, undressing me with his eyes. Perhaps he notices I am a bit moody. He reaches under the table and lightly caresses my knee, knowing that it will tickle slightly and elicit a little blush and a giggle.

Then he uses the trigger phrase:

“Does that tickle?”

I begin to feel a warm flush all over my body. Perhaps the white wine is adding to this sensation, making it increasingly difficult for me to remain composed. I start to laugh out of pure embarrassment. My loss of control is making me hotter and hotter between my thighs. I am afraid the whole restaurant will hear me laughing and that everybody in the room will know that my partner is tickling me under the table. My fetish will be exposed and I will be unable to control how turned on I’m becoming.

My partner leans forward and speaks to me in a very sexy, sultry tone.

“When we get home, I am going to tickle the crap out of you. There will be no discussion in the matter. I am going to strip you down, tie your arms up over your head and tickle you for as long as I please.”

I can’t wait for him to get the check, so we can hurry home for my tickle session. He makes me wait, flirting with me shamelessly for the next hour or so. I suddenly become a bit terrified of him getting the check. Excitement is permeating throughout my entire body. My panty crotch is soaked. My face is beet red and my heart is pounding with delicious anticipation.

He gets the check and chuckles, as I gasp quietly. He takes me home and then, well you can imagine the rest.

I just shared one of my fantasies. What are your fantasies? What fantasies lie deep inside of you and do you feel sometimes like sharing them with a trusted partner? The fantasy I just shared is definitely something I would want to share with a partner.

It is important to have a partner who wants to hear your fantasies and help fulfill them. Your partner should also learn all your trigger phrases and use them generously, as you should also do with your partner. I would not settle for anything less and neither should you. The more you and your partner understand each other’s needs and desires, the more sexually fulfilling your relationship will be. Most tickle lovers know that the best tickling often begins in the mind. The mind is an extremely important vehicle to a happy and fulfilling sex life.